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How do you break news of divorce to your kid?

On Behalf of | Jul 23, 2020 | Divorce

Arkansas parents like you have a lot to consider when discussing matters of divorce. You have to deal with asset division. You may need to cover alimony. But you must also handle matters of child support and custody. 

Before you do any of this, you also need to decide how to break the news to your child. This is one of the most delicate things you will do. It helps to have tips on how to handle the situation. 

Keep unified 

Psychology Today examines some tips for discussing divorce with your children. First, they suggest putting up a unified front with your co-parent. This means talking to your child together, not one at a time. It also means going into the conversation with a plan. Decide what you want to say and how you want to say it. Prepare yourself for any questions your child may ask. Decide with your co-parent where you will draw the lines on your answers. 

Reassure your child 

Another important tip is to ensure that your child does not think this is their fault. Many children will internalize guilt and blame over the divorce of their parents. You should reassure them as many times as possible that this is your decision. They have nothing to do with it. 

Make sure to tailor your approach according to your child’s age. If you have children of different ages, you may want to explain it more than once. Explain it in a way the youngest will understand first. Add more details for older children who will understand more. Above all else, make sure to reassure your children that you will both still be there for them no matter what.