A recent media piece looking at divorce from the perspective of a child — whether a younger person or someone who is now an adult many years removed from his or her parents’ marital dissolution — makes some poignant and important points that we pass along for our readers in Arkansas and elsewhere.
Foremost, one of those points is this: Parents are not mythical beings, that is, flawless and outsized caricatures with infallible and constantly nurturing characteristics.
Rather, and as the Huffington Post article notes, they are “real people with real feelings.” They made a best-effort go at forging a lifelong relationship, and it simply didn’t work.
People don’t always get along together, and divorce is solid evidence of that. Oftentimes, and looking at things anew from the rear-view mirror, a child of divorced parents can gain a deeper understanding, empathy and love for parents who tried their best and acknowledged failure. Seeing them move on and try again in the best way they know how can be an edifying experience for children.
Another point: Divorce can be transformative for very positive reasons, one of them being that it opens up possibilities for new and nurturing family units. Millions of Americans know that well, having experienced divorce and ultimately moving forward to create new blended families. We recently discussed the dynamism that is present in many such families in our June 24 blog entry.
And divorce can of course teach very important lessons about enduring love and resiliency as parents move forward the best way they know how, while continuing to love and care for their children.
As the above-cited articles notes, “life goes on.”
Source: Huffington Post, “11 reasons your parents’ divorce isn’t so bad after all,” Renee Jacques, June 25, 2014