Many, if not most, people here in Little Rock have a close friend or relative who has gotten divorced. But despite all they have told you about the divorce process, now that you are going through it yourself, there may be aspects of divorce that will surprise you.
Here are three things you should be aware of regarding how divorce works in Arkansas.
Children, even adult children, don’t like divorce
Finding out that their parents are getting a divorce can cause sadness, anxiety and grief in children of all ages — including teenagers and adults. Even if your kids are grown up and financially independent, this change to the family dynamic will affect them greatly. Family events like holidays, weddings and graduations will never be the same. One way to help them adjust is to keep the details of your divorce from them as much as possible.
A principled stand isn’t always worth it
There may be certain parts of the marital asset pool that you believe should be yours free and clear, and you are prepared to fight for those assets. But that might end up costing you more than the value of those assets. A long court trial over property division can be very expensive.
While your divorce attorney will do everything realistically possible to help you keep what matters most to you, like a small business you started or your house, they should also help you create a realistic strategy for property division that leaves you financially comfortable.
Few divorces end up in court
It is rare for the parties to a divorce to fail to settle out of court. The vast majority of couples negotiate a settlement or else use mediation or arbitration to finalize an agreement. Therefore, your attorney should be equally effective at negotiation as they are at litigating.