Couples in Arkansas who are not necessarily getting along or are not communicating may wonder what is going on. Experts find that there are four common predictors of divorce, and couples that are able to identify them have a better chance of making changes and saving their marriages or making the decision to get out of an unhealthy relationship.
According to HuffPost, there is certain behavior that is the most common divorce predictor. While rolling the eyes at a spouse may seem innocent, this behavior exhibits contempt towards the partner, and other examples of this are name-calling and sarcasm. Some illustrations of contempt include:
- Using the phrases ‘whatever’ or ‘you are overreacting’ to send a message of unimportance
- Making jokes at the partner’s expense
- Making heavy and long sighs
Very Well Mind discusses the other three predictors of divorce, which are also known as the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Criticism is one of them because it gives the implication that something is wrong with the other spouse. Criticizing is often seen in the form of attacking the other’s character or personality.
Criticism can lead to defensiveness, which is another predictor. A partner may show this by not taking responsibility, counter-complaining, making excuses or acting like a victim. Some common phrases include ‘yes, but…’ and ‘it’s not my fault.’
Stonewalling is the fourth common divorce predictor. This is a complete withdrawal from the relationship and/or communication with a partner with the intent to avoid conflict. For some, this may be an emotional shut down, while at other times the partner may physically leave. While this is usually because the person feels overwhelmed, to the other partner it conveys a disconnect, arrogance or disapproval.
Couples who are unable to identify these behaviors or cannot change them will more than likely be heading for divorce.