There are many reasons that Arkansas couples divorce, but broken trust is frequently a component. If your split was less than amicable, you might want to make the separation as clean as possible, including custody of your children. At Robertson, Oswalt, Nony & Associates, we often help clients create parenting plans that work for everyone.
It may be tempting to dismiss the idea of joint custody. The thought of interacting with each other and making shared decisions may seem impossible. However, HelpGuide.org reports that co-parenting benefits the emotional well-being of children. When they feel the love and presence of both parents it reduces the incidence of depression and anxiety. As a result of watching you and your ex work together despite the split, your kids gain a better understanding of peaceful problem-solving.
One of the first steps toward successful co-parenting is setting aside your own emotions. Although challenging, it benefits your children’s happiness and future well-being. Stay focused on what is best for them and separate behavior from feelings.
Do not use your kids as messengers; it places them in the center of the conflict. If you have information for your ex, address them directly, whether via text, in person or email. The two of you can benefit from developing a conflict-free communication method, which reduces the stress of maintaining contact.
Approaching the relationship as a business arrangement can help you move forward as colleagues as opposed to spouses. Communicate with respect and neutrality, listening to the other parent as you would a co-worker. Even if you do not agree with their opinion, you can say that you hear and understand the perspective.
Children like understanding expectations. Having the same or similar rules and schedules in both households can help the transition easier.
Keeping the best interests of your children in mind can help you work with the other parent easier and remove some of the stress of co-parenting. Visit our webpage for more information on this topic.