Burning bridges. Going toe-to-toe. Drawing lines in the sand.

Or, as referenced in one recent national article, fighting it out “with guns blazing.”

Those descriptors all readily apply sometimes when it comes to aptly conveying the preferred strategy of some people engaged in the divorce process. Indeed, marital dissolution can seem akin to formalized war in a courtroom, with the term “adversarial” being well-placed.

Sometimes that’s just the way it is. Soon-to-be exes are not always inclined to be civil with each other. What some of them really want to do is fight, with divorce court essentially being their boxing ring.

Concededly, some decouplings seem destined for that route. Indeed, putting on a smile and doing one’s best to be amicable throughout the divorce process can be difficult – if not impossible – in some instances. That can certainly be true when evidence reveals that a spouse has engaged in adultery, unlawfully sought to hide marital assets, displayed violent tendencies or refuses to get help for a serious substance abuse problem.

Seasoned family law attorneys with a proven record of performance typically have experience advocating for clients in such divorces. They understand that the person they are representing in a given case has specific needs, and they act professionally to optimally promote that individual’s best interests.

At the same time, though, they know that no two dissolutions are the same and that no boilerplate legal strategy exists to routinely produce best-case results. The divorce bottom line relevant to both employed strategies and outcomes in unique in every matter.

That means that, while some divorces are marked by ongoing tensions and strife, others aren’t. There are many ways to end a marriage, with it thankfully being the case that splitting couples frequently are able to take a relatively high and civil road throughout the divorce process.

We’ll look at some factors that centrally promote that result in our next blog post.