Some people of course know Gwyneth Paltrow as an actress. That is her occupation, with the screen roles she plays being her primary connection with the general public.
Paltrow is also notable for other reasons as well, though, especially the freedom she exhibits while delivering her take on various matters that command widespread interest.
Like divorce, for instance. That is a topic that Paltrow addressed a few years back during her own marital uncoupling with musician Chris Martin.
Focus on that word “uncoupling” for a moment. If you’ve heard it before, it’s likely because of its close association with Paltrow. It garnered widespread media attention from the first moment that Paltrow stated she and Martin would strive to focus amicably on “conscious uncoupling” in their divorce.
Many people lauded Paltrow for her stressed desire to — in her words – “go directly to the point where we’re friends.” Critics abounded too, though, with barbs being aimed at the couple for their privileged status and ability to throw money at their divorce in a way that most people simply can’t.
Paltrow stated recently in an interview revisiting her divorce and linked resolve to keep it open and amicable that she is quite aware her status and comments have made her a somewhat controversial figure.
She doesn’t care.
“It’s such a beautiful concept,” she says of the idea that divorcing couples “are parents first and foremost.” She states that the thrust of conscious uncoupling is simple and direct, namely, the effort to work through personal differences to keep things civil and a family connected following divorce.
“We’re family, that’s it,” she says, adding that being mindful of the enduring beauty of that rather than discordant elements linked with divorce “[helps us] remember what we loved about each other.”
In retrospect, conscious uncoupling hardly seems like it should be a lightning-rod utterance in the family law realm. Arguably, it’s just another way of saying that the long-term post-divorce bonds and health of a family are best nurtured when a divorcing couple makes a good-faith effort to build rather than burn bridges.
Families change following divorce, of course, but the bottom line is that they endure. That is the central point that Paltrow has long sought to make.