Are you angry at your soon-to-be or your ex-spouse?  Are you hurt by his/her behavior toward you?  Are you thinking that hurt or anger should justify using your children as weapons over the holidays?  Well, please think again.  Every year, family lawyers gear up for the inevitable “holiday tugs-of-war” between parents.  It is truly one of the saddest, most aggravating parts of our jobs to have to help clients navigate through selfish, petty disputes over spending time with their children for the holidays.  Your children love both families.  Your children need to see both parents and families for the holidays, without “strings attached,” without conflict or snideness.  They simply want to have peace.  Can you do your part to ensure that they get peace for Christmas?  I’ll bet it will be their favorite gift.