If you’re going to pay child support following divorce and think that your soon-to-be ex is asking for too much in the divorce process, there are a few strategies you can likely pursue to address your concerns.

Like reasoning, for example. If there are elements of reasonableness and civility still existing in your relationship, a direct and non-incendiary approach to the matter might yield results. Perhaps your impending ex isn’t fully apprised of your present financial challenges. Maybe you just got demoted or were laid off, and he or she doesn’t know that.

Working with a seasoned attorney on a sound and balanced parenting plan can often yield results that are optimally workable for both parties.

Here is what doesn’t work: forging your spouse’s name on divorce papers, coupled with unilateral insertions concerning payment amounts and visitation time with children that your partner knows nothing about.

Would any thoughtful person believe that such machinations could bear fruit and remain undetected?

Of course not, which is exactly what a divorcing dad in one state found one. Moreover, the repercussions personally visited on him following his irate spouse’s discovery of his attempted deception are going to sting for years.

That individual is presently servicing a sentence of home detention for criminal forgery. The amount of support he initially agreed to pay and sought to materially reduce through altered court document has now been spiked upward by hundreds of dollars. The expanded visitation time he sought has been forfeited; in fact, he now has no legal right to see his son at all.

And there is more, as noted in a recent article chronicling his behavior. That report states that the man “also was tagged with about $32,000 of additional payments” to his ex-wife, plus even more divorce- and criminal-related payments.

Candor and ethical behavior is obviously endorsed in the divorce process.

Forgery is not.