Certainly, every Arkansas resident who has ever been divorced or who is currently thinking about ending a failed marriage knows that there are many potential outcomes linked with post-divorce life.
As one family law columnist and author recently notes, you and your ex-partner can reasonably expect to be “bitter enemies” for the rest of your lives if your dissolution process was chiefly marked by “the punitive aspects of divorce.”
Alternatively, other couples might simply go their separate ways without much — or any — continuing regard or thought for the other.
And then there are situations, of course, where continued amicability exists after separation, and where former spouses make a conscious and sustained effort to always get along for some important reason.
Writer Constance Ahrons calls the latter type of dissolution the “good divorce,” And she duly notes that the one key reason why some splitting parties are determined to go the good-divorce route is both clear and simple.
It’s the kids.
They are precious cargo, and most parents will do everything they can to promote their best interests, even in situations where mom and dad might be sorely tested in their attempts to remain civil and permanently connected to some extent.
The good divorce obviously takes some work. Ahrons states that it is grounded in a “parenting partnership” that allows kids “to maintain their emotional bonds to each parent, and to their extended families.”
Experienced family law attorneys work with diverse clients in all kinds of divorces, knowing that there is no standard blueprint for an optimal outcome.
That means that, in some matters, proven legal counsel will aggressively litigate for a client in court, if that is what is required to secure a fair divorce outcome.
And in other instances, that attorney can help parents do everything that is reasonably possible to promote the above-cited parenting partnership and secure the “good divorce” referenced by Ahrons.
No two divorces are ever the same. An experienced attorney will always be extremely sensitive to that reality.