Divorce is a life-changing event that can turn your emotions upside down. You may feel like you have lost a substantial part of your life. You may experience feelings of loss, guilt, anger, frustration and more. These are normal feelings when you are witnessing the end of your marriage.

Many people suffer from situational depression, which is somewhat different from clinical depression. According to one divorce coach, situational depression is caused by a loss like a divorce or death. She said that most people who are in the middle of a divorce have some situational depression and that it is a normal part of the grieving process. However, if you don’t deal with this type of depression, it can go on for much longer than you might realize. Here are three tips that can help you deal with situational depression that is due to divorce.

— Pay attention to that conversation that is running through your head. Instead of allowing yourself to be brought down by negative thoughts, start calling yourself uplifting, positive and powerful names.

— Write a goodbye letter to your marriage. This takes a lot of courage, as you will have to address the parts of your marriage that failed. It can be a long letter, so just be prepared. Once everything is written out, you will feel like a weight has been lifted from your shoulders.

— Write a hello letter. Put into words what your new life is going to bring you. This should be a positive letter that addresses the possibilities you now have.

If you feel as though you can’t seem to shake the feelings or that you need help, your divorce attorney can recommend therapists, counselors or others that can help you deal with the emotions you feel. Don’t wait to ask for help when it’s needed.

Source: PsychCentral, “How To Deal With Depression After Divorce: 5 Actionable Tips,” accessed May 20, 2016