Divorce has a less than favorable reputation. It is inherently looked at in a negative light, as people who hear about a divorce often think or reply with “oh, I’m so sorry to hear about that!” or “gosh, that’s a shame, that’s too bad.” While there’s no reason to believe these sentiments aren’t genuine, the mere fact that this is the immediate reaction to a divorce reveals the negativity associated with it.
We bring this up in an effort to dispel this reputation that divorce has. Divorce is no more of a problem than it is a “problem” to call a locksmith when you’re locked out of your home, or it is a “problem” to call a plumber to fix a serious leak. What we’re getting at is this: divorce isn’t a problem. In fact, the unhappy marriage is the problem, and the divorce is the solution to that problem.
You may think this is a cynical view of marriage and divorce, but it’s true. Would you rather stay in an unhappy marriage for years just because divorce has a bad reputation and you “don’t want to do that”? Or would you rather end that misery and move on with your life by filing for divorce?
As a point of clarification, we’re not advocating that every couple get divorced the second that they have an argument or they feel unhappy. Instead, what we mean is that when the relationship between the spouses is irreparably strained and thus untenable, then a divorce is likely your best option.
If you do make the ultimate decision to file for divorce, you’ll want an attorney by your side to help you through the coming weeks and months — and at Robertson Law Firm, we have the experience and knowledge to help spouses get through the divorce process.